Heartache enriches you as much as victory.
Some consolation, right? You feel crappy. Screw the enrichment. It’s time to wallow, dammit.
There’s no shame in that. Wallow big, wallow deep. Make it the best wallow you’ve ever had.
Eventually, something inside of you will yearn to feel good again. That’s your natural state of being – your spirit always hangs out in that high-vibe state – and you’ll seek to rise up to it, over and over.
Here’s the bad news: You can’t go right from feeling devastated to feeling happy.
Here’s the good news: Yes you can.
Just not all in one swoop. The chasm is too wide. You can’t see the other side and your legs are too weak to a big leap anyway.
Here’s the key: think in increments. Look for one small, easy thing you can do that feels good.
Look for what soothes and pleases your senses: Pet your dog or cat. Slide into a favorite sweater. Light some lavender incense. Give up your seat on the train to an elder and notice that it feels good to stretch your legs.
These may seem like excruciatingly small steps, especially when chaos seems to be swirling around, but one self-nourishing act will lead to the next.
The morning after the election, the only thing I could do was sip my warm cup of coffee. It was a simple pleasure I had control over when it seemed like the world had turned upside down. It helped me feel just better enough to go to the myofascial release class I’ve been taking. Doing something good for my body lifted spirits. After that I had enough momentum to make a healthy, satisfying soup for lunch.
Feeling bereft was being replaced by feeling fortified. I was slowly but steadily starting to rise back up to my natural state of wellbeing.
Next time you’re feeling blue, don’t try to power through it. Instead, take a warm bath with rose or vanilla essential oil. Find a water sounds station on Pandora and take a nap swaddled in soft blankets. Go for a walk and stop for a hot chocolate. Savor it.
Don’t worry about whether you’re being self-indulgent. You are. And that’s fine. Taking whatever steps you need to feel better isn’t weak, it’s empowering.
In fact, the more consciously you care for yourself, the quicker you will ascend back to your natural state of feeling centered and whole. You might even feel even better than before.
What’s one simple, nourishing thing you can do to feel a little bit better than you do right now?
Do it. Then do another.